According to an anonymous insider who
claims he has lived with Daniel and Doris Ademinokan for years, the
split between the couple was ignited by boring sex life.
The
man who simply identified himself as JMK said Doris didn’t take her
romance with Daniel seriously and her ignorance of what her ex-hubby
wanted sexually ended the relationship.
The email below was sent to Stella Dimorkus of Encomium magazine yesterday.
Read the lengthy email below;
Hello,
I have stood by in the last couple of days to see this drama about
Stella Damasus and Daniel Ademinokan unfold. I have read countless
blogs, reviews and comments from all over the world and I have come to
the conclusion that people have no clue what they are talking about.
I
lived with daniel and doris for over 4 years so i know the facts! Not
hear say or assumptions. I will even mention names that can be
verified.Let us not be distracted by this stunt that uncle Daniel just
pulled with the party and the gift. Let us focus on the root of this
matter. When we know the foundation, we will know how to direct our
anger and “insults”.
I lived with Daniel & Doris because my
sister was close friends with aunty Doris and at that time I needed
accommodation in Lagos because my parents were based in the south south
part of Nigeria. I lived with them when they were still on Salami Street
in Mende, Maryland, Lagos and even when they moved to their Idowu
Akindele Crescent residence in Magodo GRA, Lagos.
Daniel was a
good man and the perfect husband to Doris and he made her feel special
in every way. He always spoke to her nicely and was quick to defend her
in many ways. He supported her career and was determined to make Doris
rise to the top above her colleagues. He used to say that a lot and felt
she deserved to be at the top. He would always say, “Dem Toyin, Funke,
Dayo and co no fine pass you. Dem nor act pass you. I have to position
you at the top”. He did everything in his power to put her her there.
Daniel
cannot come and boast to people, especially me that he single handedly
financed all of Doris’ films. he can't. He was responsible for getting
the finances but it was not HIS money entirely that did films like
Onitemi and Omo iya kan. The marketer named epsalum financed these
films. I know that Daniel may have added about 10%-20% of his cash at
some point but it was almost insignificant. The only film he did with
his money for her 100% was the film ASIRI. So if he ever claims he did
those films for her….quote me or ask epsalum
Doris was a good wife
in her own right. She supported her husband’s passion to change the
industry. She encouraged him into making Yoruba films which he really
didn’t want to get into. She enjoyed the fact that out of most of her
colleagues, she was the one that had a steady home with a young and
successful guy…ambitious man too. She was the minister of finance.
That’s
what Daniel used to call her in the house because he always gave her
all the money to handle. He would bring money home an hand it all over
to her because she was efficient in money management, unlike him who was
a free giver and really had no respect or regard for money! Whether he
had enough or not, he never did care so much about cash. never!
For
the 4 years that I lived with them, not for one day did I ever hear
them raise their voices at each other in arguments or quarrels. You
would see them come out of their bedroom sometimes with weird
expressions and we would all know they just fought but you would never
hear Daniel raise his voice. never!
One thing that the world never
know was how much both families never wanted them to get married.
Doris’ parents didn’t like Daniel and Daniel’s mother (in particular)
never liked Doris. She was against the relationship from the beginning.
She is known to be a heavy prayer warrior and she said God was against
the marriage from scratch but Daniel never listened to his mother.
Now,
the horrible thing about Daniel is his stubbornness and hard headed
nature. He never listens to people and if he believes in something, it
would take a manifestation of the 10 plagues in Egypt to change his
mind.
He is an extremely stubborn and very determined person.
Which was one thing I hated about him. Yes he is nice, loving to his
family and friends but do not think for a minute that you can convince
him easily to change his mind when he has already formed an opinion or
decided on what he wants to do.
He went on with the marriage. His
family believed that Doris trapped him with the baby but that is a big
lie. I have always disagreed with his mother on that note: I respect the
woman but Doris did not trap Daniel with a baby. They were already
living together for 3 years before David was born. So the woman should
get her facts straight. Her son (I believe) wanted the child as much as
Doris did.
I think along the line Uncle Daniel started to realize
that in many ways he and Aunty Doris were different. Much different than
he had thought. I believe Doris started to relax on several things
because she felt she had her husband and he was going nowhere. He was
always very expressive about his love, she was the opposite.
He
would run around the house and want to play love games with her but she
thought that was a waste of time and energy. I personally experienced
that with them on several occasions. I guess Doris was more concerned
about how people perceived the relationship on the outside and not how
sweet it really was on the inside. She always wanted pictures of them
out there. Daniel was more concerned about making his marrige very
“Oyinbo-ish” because that’s who he has always been.
At some point I
started to feel that Daniel started getting tired of her excuses about
being expressive with her feelings even in the house. I think it
suddenly dawned on him that they were from two different worlds. Their
command of English was too far apart, their ideologies were different,
approach to situations, educational background, family, upbringing, etc.
I believe she just stopped being his wife and turned herself into a
MAMA in the house. I remember him buying her all sorts of short clothes
and sexy outfits from the US. I thought they were too daring but he
didn’t mind.
The marriage meltdown goes as far back as 2009. I
know that I heard them talking in hush tones a few times about how sex
was a problem in the marriage. I know for a fact that Daniel used to
joke about it around the house but you could see he was serious in those
jokes. He was always clowning about how he had to fill forms like an
embassy to have sex with his wife. I know at some point it was so bad
that for almost 6 months they didn’t do anything. One thing I can tell
you for a fact is that in the course of their marriage, Daniel never
cheated on Doris. This was a known fact and everyone knew how crazy he
was about his wife but really….is lack of sex enough to ruin a marriage?
Some
people Daniel confided in where his bosom friend Alex Effiong who was
there when Daniel and Doris hooked up originally. I know I overheard
Daniel and Alex talking about it in the editing studio at the BQ in
Magodo. Two other people I know for a fact that Daniel confided in when
he was in America where his friends Bukky Ebun of Nollywood View and
‘Lamide Davies.
You can ask them because they are on Facebook.
These two people will tell you the whole story and how they tried to
step in to advice. Even Bukky came to the house in Magodo at some point
when she visited Nigeria. She came with Kaha the singer. That’s how I
found out. He was desperate to save his marriage that’s why he took
drastic steps to talk to people.
I blame Doris in some ways
because she just relaxed, trusted that everything was OK and that her
marriage was going to last forever. In marriage, you gotta keep working
to make it good.
What annoyed Daniel the most was when he found
out his wife had a shop that he didn’t even know about. He found out
from outsiders and when he confronted her, she said she was trying to
surprise him. That really pissed him off! He was enraged! This was when
he grabbed his son and left! Daniel was a very, very patient man but I
hate the way he did it. He just left!
While everyone was
celebrating the happy lives these people shared, the marriage was
already over!! They were just patching things up! They kept holding on
because of “What people would say”. Doris also messed up in certain ways
because she could not fight to keep her man. She was too comfortable
and never imagined that Daniel would get frustrated and leave. Not in
this lifetime. I could see it in his eyes everyday that he was just
tired of struggling to make it all work.
Look for people like Aliu
Shorinmade who was his personal assistant for 5 years. These were the
people who knew Daniel very well and how he avoided women like a plague.
Let them tell you facts. Let them tell you truths. Stella Damasus did
not break up Doris Simeon’s home. That home was scattered long before
Stella came into the picture. I believe Daniel got the attention that he
craved so much at home in someone he considered a friend and sparks
flew.
When i read that Daniel moved to Abuja and was being taken
care of by a woman, I laughed because the people saying this have no
idea who Daniel is. He is so arrogant in certain ways that he would
rather die of hunger than take a dime from any woman. he is that kind of
man! He will be too embarrassed to take a dime from any woman. The dude
is a workaholic….I give that to him. Films, Fashion, Documentaries,
Writing, Photography, Music, Publishing, Visual Effects, name it! He is a
master at them all.
There is so much I know and if all these names I mentioned here deny anything…they are lying! I can open a big can of worms!
Look
for Aliu and ask him to tell you about the girl Blessing that Doris
brought into their house that stayed for almost 3 years. Daniel sent her
away from the house over 4 times and Doris kept bringing her back. Why?
Nobody knows! Can never be explained! He never wanted the girl in the
house, but she kept bringing her back. We know that at some point Daniel
discovered that this girl was sexually abusing Daniel’s son David! What
did Doris do about it???
If all the parties involved think I am
lying, let them confront me! Let them deny it! Daniel cannot deny it!
Doris cannot Deny it! Aliu cannot deny it! They know the truth!! There
is a girl called Sunmisola that used to visit the house some weekends
then. She was close to Doris…find out and Ask her too!
All I can say is that Daniel and Doris deceived everyone for a long time about how good the marriage was even when everything was bitter and sour! So those hating on Stella are really wasting their time because Stella damscus did nt ruin Doris's marriage
All I can say is that Daniel and Doris deceived everyone for a long time about how good the marriage was even when everything was bitter and sour! So those hating on Stella are really wasting their time because Stella damscus did nt ruin Doris's marriage
Daniel and Doris know what
scattered them that led to their divorce in 2011. If any of them claim
I’m lying, let them challenge me.
END OF EMAIL
With all of the above allegations, hopefully Doris Simeon will come open to defend herself.
The above email speaks volume about Stella Damasus’ involvement in the whole marriage problem saga.
What
would have happened if Daniel Ademinokan didn’t meet Stella at that
critical moment of his life… May be he would have worked things out with
his wife.
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