10 TIPS FOR GIRLS IN DATING (I hope say una no go kill me for this one) by Igbinedion Sammy

1. Be secure enough in how much God loves you or you will become a slave to the guy’s decisions, emotions, and actions. If you put your identity in your boyfriend, in hopes that he will satisfy you, save you, and fulfill you, then when you break up it will feel like you are losing your god not your boyfriend.

2. Find out the guy’s gifts, talents, and passions and pursue them with him. Guys like shared time more than shared conversation sometimes. Just doing an activity he loves together means the world.

3. Break up with him if he doesn’t follow number 1 above. Seriously. It never ends well. A guy is always on his best behavior in dating so if you see red flags in dating, they only get worse in marriage. It’s better to be not married and lonely, then married, lonely, and miserable.

4. Pray for him, let him lead, and encourage him through texts, notes, gifts, etc.

5. Have a few older godlier men in your dating life (your pastor, father, etc). If you two date in isolation it won’t go well. Guys listen to guys, so get guys in your life that can speak into his life and keep him accountable.


6. Quit Nagging all the time. This pisses him off the most. Rather, see reasons with him and speak to him in a calm manner.

7. Everytime he tells you that he loves you, be sensitive enough to look deep into his eyes to confirm his word. You can tell if a guy is lying through his eyes( Here's a tip, no be me tell una o, If he says this without his eyes blinking fast, then he's true to his words, but if he says this with the opposite, then look for another way to find out if he's saying the truth; shineka! Na play i dey o)

8. Everytime he's with his friends, play cool and don't show yourself too much. I noticed so many Naija girls whenever they go hangout with their man and his friends, they always want to choke the guy by staying close to him, trying to show everyone she's his girlfriend and nobody else. Guys love to be free when with their buddies. Abeg free the guy small. No too police am. You didn't go there with him as his bodyguard.

9. Most importantly, during sex, don't be the log of wood. Don't just lay there like a stone waiting to be pushed. Come sister, wake up and do your thing gurl. Show him the stuffs you are made with so he knows other girls out there are learners. Good sex helps keep a relationship.

10. If you stick with all the 9 tips above and your boyfriend still thinks you are not good enough for him, ask yourself this question " ARE MY A LEARNER ? " My dear, waka and don't stay. Look for somebody better for you. No time to waste time. The guy is just a boy and not a Man.